«Whenever a friend succeeds, a little something inside me dies» Gore Vidal
“Why does my brother act like this? Why does he make fun of me in public? Why does he lie to my father about me and put me down in front of him? Why can’t he acknowledge any of my accomplishments? Do you think […]
The more we “procrastinate”, the greater the risk of worrying about our work piling up and the more our self esteem suffers.
It’s normal to put some things off. “I’ll have to get that done, get this fixed, clean up the shed…” However, what for many may seem like a small flaw without much consequence, can […]
With three beautiful children, a loving wife, a very successful business and hardly any debt (yes, this breed of farmer still exists), it would seem that Marc has it all. What else could he ask for? “I don’t know why, but I feel that I’m not meant to be happy; I want more and more, […]
“He is always right” says Matthew, age 25. “We always have to do things his way. Not even my mother can voice any kind of an opinion. I get the impression that he is manipulating us all. I’ve had enough.”
When I met Matthew’s father, his initial comment was, “I’ve heard that you are an excellent […]
The more we believe we are impervious to burnout, the more vulnerable we are. Why? Because we know no limits.
Mark (an assumed name), 6 ft. tall, 200 lbs., and in his early forties, comes to my office for a consultation. He says he feels “confused, discouraged and has no energy.” He cries and is afraid […]
When we invest everything into one area of our lives, we become extremely vulnerable. If this area collapses, our whole life falls apart.
Mark, 35 years old, approached me because “life at home was intolerable”. After having met with the family for a few hours, I quickly realized that I was dealing with a difficult case. […]
Anxious people spend a lot of energy worrying, which makes them unhappy and unproductive.
A farmer confided in me that, for nearly 10 years, he was very much afraid to leave the farm, for even a few hours. “What if the barn burns down while I’m gone?”, he added. His wife runs all the errands and […]
“Had I known, I would have done things differently. This was supposed to improve our situation, but we’ve never felt so overwhelmed and so vulnerable financially.” Does this sound familiar? I have heard these remarks dozens of times. How many business decisions end up being decisions from hell?
These decisions can involve situations such as associations, […]
I have conducted conferences with many, many farmers, and most of the time the topic involved the management of stress. Several of these farmers also approached me for consultation. One constant emerges: the difficult farming situations experienced over the last few years have been particularly hard on couples.
Take the example of Carol and Mark (fictitious […]
Motivation is essential to life. It is the impulse, that little flame that animates us and pushes us to action. At the same time, it can seem like the weather on occasion: sometimes high, sometimes though, uncertain, instable, that is affecting our daily life either positively or negatively. On the other hand, unlike the weather, […]